For someone who has been married for 13 years, Ayu Heni Rosan sure has a thing or two to say about romance. Coming from different backgrounds—with her being Balinese and her husband from Jakarta—the wife of Rosan Perkasa Roeslani says that their differences actually complete each other. So with Valentine’s Day just around the corner, who else would be better to share her thoughts about love than the always-sophisticated Ayu Heni Rosan?

What is your favourite thing about your husband?

What I love most about my husband is that he is very understanding and caring. Even with his busy schedule and his work duties, he still spares time for the kids and me. I love that he is a family man above all else.

What has being married taught you?

Being married has taught me many things I’d never thought about before. As you spend your life with someone else, each day you feel that your relationship becomes much stronger. I also learned the importance of communication with each other, the importance of tolerating each other, and how to compromise, because, at the end of the day, we need each other more than ever.

How do you solve problems in a marriage?

I believe that every marriage has its struggles and problems and no marriage is better than the other. However, I also believe that there is always a solution to every problem when you want to try to find it.

After 13 years, how do you still keep the sparks flying in your marriage?

We don’t go out of our comfort zones to keep the sparks alive in our marriage. However, my husband and I like to have a “date night”, which is usually dinner alone together where we have the chance to really talk and spend some quality time with each other.

Do you have any dating advice for young couples out there?

Keep in mind that communication is a vital part of any relationship. Many of us live hectic lives, but we must always put a priority on sparing time to communicate with each other, be it checking up on each other or other small things—there is no such thing as a trivial detail. Another important piece of advice is to build trust in your relationship. You need to trust your partner in order to have a strong foundation and for the relationship to last.

Last but not least, what is the secret to a long-lasting marriage?

For me, the secret to a long-lasting marriage is to be happy in each other’s company. This can happen when you have a strong connection with your partner; you need to trust each other, communicate well, to compromise and to accept each other’s flaws. After all, no one is perfect.


Photo Credit: Heri B. Heryanto

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